Goals: Why you need them and why you shouldn’t get into business without having them!

When I first started working from home one of the first questions I was asked was about my goals.  What were my personal, family and business goals.  Needless to say I hadn’t really thought about it.  Aren’t those called dreams I thought naively?

It took me a lot of procrastinating about what my real goals were and to be honest my personal goals were the most difficult for me.  When I went into business for myself, I had been a mother for 5 years and a wife for 7, a daughter in law, a daughter, sister and many other relationships in between.  These relationships kind of defined my path in life for a little while.  I had a degree and a fabulous job prior to becoming a Mum and someone else set my goals according to their business/department goals.  They were called “objectives”.  This was my only experience of what goals may look like so I took a similar path in setting them for myself.  I had a column of what my goal was, a column of broken down tasks as part of that goal and a completion date as well as a date for review.  This was a great way to break down what I needed to achieve but I was still really struggling with setting my personal goals.

I listened to my mentor say to me don’t think small the sky is the limit, what would you ask for?  How true is that?  In my faith we believe God can give us anything if we ask for it enough.  So why had I stopped asking?  When did I stop asking and more importantly why was I thinking like my goals were dreams now – things that you can aspire to but you cannot really have. This is so the opposite of reality.

My top tips

  • Create a goal board – something visual for you to look at, it can be online but i personally think a real one that you can touch and feel is better.  It takes time to invest into it and you have to be real with yourself.  Literally add all the finer things in life, some you may even think are not achievable but that’s ok – work with me here.  If you have kids get them to draw pictures and add to it, make it personal to you.  My first goal board didn’t have a lot on it.  I found it difficult to think outside the programming that I can have goals for big thing in life.  Something I had developed unknowingly over the few years previously.
  • Write down a timeline for each goal.  Everyone needs stepping stones towards their big goals – they work as positive re-enforcement that you are going in the right direction and that you are achieving goals.  This will reaffirm your faith in your goals and really get you to believe that you can achieve them one by one, you may even find your goal board getting bigger or more full as time goes on.  Some people prefer a yearly goal board as this gives them a focus to achieve those things within the year.
  • Get to work – the how of achieving the goals on your board means that you now have to break down the task and figure out what smaller tasks its going to take to get you there.  Sometimes big goals overwhelm people but actually when you break them down into smaller bite-size chunks they aren’t so overwhelming any more.
  • Take action! The goal board is done, you now have a plan in bite size achievable chunks and the only thing that’s stopping you from reaching your goals is you taking massive action now!  Nothing on your goal board will be achieved until you take the action to achieve it.  The key is to stay focused and don’t let anything knock you down – get up quickly from set backs and make them a greater opportunity for your come back!

It took me a lot of procrastinating about what my real goals were and to be honest my personal goals were the most difficult for me.  When I went into business for myself, I had been a mother for 5 years and a wife for 7, a daughter in law, a daughter, sister and many other relationships in between.  These relationships kind of defined my path in life for a little while.  I had a degree and a fabulous job prior to becoming a Mum and someone else set my goals according to their business/department goals.  They were called “objectives”.  This was my only experience of what goals may look like so I took a similar path in setting them for myself.  I had a column of what my goal was, a column of broken down tasks as part of that goal and a completion date as well as a date for review.  This was a great way to break down what I needed to achieve but I was still really struggling with setting my personal goals.

I listened to my mentor say to me don’t think small the sky is the limit, what would you ask for?  How true is that?  In my faith we believe God can give us anything if we ask for it enough.  So why had I stopped asking?  When did I stop asking and more importantly why was I thinking like my goals were dreams now – things that you can aspire to but you cannot really have. This is so the opposite of reality.

My top tips

  • Create a goal board – something visual for you to look at, it can be online but i personally think a real one that you can touch and feel is better.  It takes time to invest into it and you have to be real with yourself.  Literally add all the finer things in life, some you may even think are not achievable but that’s ok – work with me here.  If you have kids get them to draw pictures and add to it, make it personal to you.  My first goal board didn’t have a lot on it.  I found it difficult to think outside the programming that I can have goals for big thing in life.  Something I had developed unknowingly over the few years previously.
  • Write down a timeline for each goal.  Everyone needs stepping stones towards their big goals – they work as positive re-enforcement that you are going in the right direction and that you are achieving goals.  This will reaffirm your faith in your goals and really get you to believe that you can achieve them one by one, you may even find your goal board getting bigger or more full as time goes on.  Some people prefer a yearly goal board as this gives them a focus to achieve those things within the year.
  • Get to work – the how of achieving the goals on your board means that you now have to break down the task and figure out what smaller tasks its going to take to get you there.  Sometimes big goals overwhelm people but actually when you break them down into smaller bite-size chunks they aren’t so overwhelming any more.
  • Take action! The goal board is done, you now have a plan in bite size achievable chunks and the only thing that’s stopping you from reaching your goals is you taking massive action now!  Nothing on your goal board will be achieved until you take the action to achieve it.  The key is to stay focused and don’t let anything knock you down – get up quickly from set backs and make them a greater opportunity for your come back!

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